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Archive for December, 2010



Here’s hoping everyone had a wonderful Christmas/Hanukkah/Kwanzaa holiday and hopefully you are looking forward to a refreshing start in 2011!

What now comes to my mind are the lyrics of a song from one of my favorite Broadway shows, “RENT.” ‘525,600 minutes, how do you measure a year in someone’s life? In daylights, in sunsets, in midnights or in cups of coffee? In inches, in miles, in laughter, in strife? How about LOVE?’

Beginning January 1, 2011, we are all given the blessing and privilege of 525,600 minutes to make a difference. What will you do with your half a million minutes this year? I believe there are no coincidences in God’s great plan, therefore it is not a coincidence that our paths have crossed. It is DIVINE PROVIDENCE!

My hope for you is that you are showered with love; graced with an abundance of blessings; profused with good health and deluged with joy, prosperity and positive growth in 2011.



Daisy Roberts


Can you ever really know whether you’ve met “the one”? Unfortunately, there isn’t a foolproof litmus test, but you can be fairly confident in your relationship if you notice these NINE signs that are characteristic of a really special connection between two people.

1) You’re Not Chasing the Relationship’s Potential

Many people have romantic relationships fraught with obstacles. On a basic level, the relationship is satisfactory, but there always seems to be something standing in the way of true happiness: a stressful job, an annoying ex, a distasteful habit. Both people feel that once the obstacle is removed, they’ll be truly content together.

Unfortunately, relationships don’t work that way. Once the problem is resolved, another one pops up. And—surprise!—the couple is still unhappy.

What people may not realize is that if they are waiting for true happiness in their relationship, then they are in the wrong relationship. Landing a better job may make life easier financially, but no amount of money will help two people who just aren’t a good fit for each other.

The truth is, a happy, well-adjusted couple doesn’t have to chase what could be or should be. A good relationship just is.

2) Who You Are Is Good Enough

You know you’ve met the one when your partner loves you for who you are. We know it sounds pretty cliché, but like all clichés, it’s true. “The One’s” admiration of you is so powerful that it’s almost as if he or she is awestruck by your very presence. He takes great pride in the choices you’ve made. She finds you smart, sexy, fun to be with, and so on. You never have to try to impress “The One” because you’ve already done that by just being you.

3) You Manage Conflict Well

Let’s say we have two couples that have been together for the same amount of time. Couple A fights regularly. Couple B has never argued in the history of their relationship. Which couple do you think a relationship counselor would say is at greater risk?

That’s right: Couple B. Upon closer examination, you’ll find that someone in the relationship—perhaps both parties—isn’t being forthcoming. Someone’s needs and wants aren’t being voiced and therefore aren’t being addressed.

Couple A, on the other hand, makes it a point to bring up topics that are bothersome or dissatisfying within the relationship. This couple regularly engages in respectful, healthy conflict—without insults or throwing things—and comes out the other side a stronger couple that gains a deeper understanding of one another with each conflict they resolve together. How much a couple fights isn’t the issue, unless they don’t fight at all. It’s how a couple manages conflicts that determines how well the relationship works.

4) The Mundane Is Suddenly Interesting

If you’re spending time with someone who really is “The One,” then you probably want to pay attention to even the smallest details of his or her life. Specifics from his work interest you, stories about his childhood hold your attention, and even old photos or home movies fascinate you.

When this happens, then this person is likely much more to you than a ship passing in the night.

5) There’s Minimal Drama—or None at All

Like we said above when we talked about conflict, even the healthiest relationships deal with their share of arguments. So when we say that there’s not a lot of drama in your relationship, we don’t mean that the two of you never fight.

But when you do, you do your best to fight fair. You admit when you’re wrong, you listen to each other, you acknowledge one another’s good points, and you apologize when you cross lines. It’s not that you have to be perfect, but if this person is “The One,” then you are at least trying to make your conflict work for your relationship rather than against it.

So if you two are dealing with constant drama, where one of you is trying to create high emotions to manipulate the other or where there’s constant turbulence without some sort of resolution, then be careful about fully committing to the relationship at this point. High drama is a definite red flag when it comes to long-term relationship success.

6) Your Friends and Family See What You See

If the people who love you the most are begging you to get away from someone, then that person’s probably not the one for you. On the other hand, if the people you trust also see what you see in this person and encourage the relationship, then that’s a good sign that you two may belong together.

Of course, sometimes your friends and family may choose someone for you whom you haven’t chosen. They may push for a relationship that you have no interest in pursuing. In these cases, it’s not always wise to follow their advice.

But if you’re falling in love with someone whom the people in your life want you to be with, then there’s a good chance that this may be the real deal.

7) You Know How to Make Them Happy

When there’s a deep connection between two people, they each know what the other wants and needs. So ask yourself this question about the person in your life: Do you know what it takes to make him or her happy? Think about minor, moment-by-moment issues, like where that person likes to eat and what kind of back rub he or she enjoys.

Additionally, think about larger matters as well: Do you know how to help her relieve stress? Can you get her to talk about her dreams and visions for the future? When she’s struggling at work or with a family issue, can you help her come through the storm and find the sun again? And, just as important, does your partner know how to do this for you as well? If so, that’s another reason to believe that you’ve found “The One.”

8 ) You Have the Same Life Priorities

Opposites may attract, but they rarely make for a good long-term relationship. Compatibility really is key when it comes to creating a deep and lasting connection between two people.

For example, if you want to begin preparing for the future and building toward certain life and career goals, but your partner mainly wants to make enough money so that he or she can party this weekend, then you two are probably working with fairly different priorities.

And the opposite it is true, too: If your priorities match up well, then you two have a much better chance of long-term happiness and fulfillment together.

9) You Respect the Person Deeply

Mutual respect is crucial for a healthy relationship. Without that respect, there’s simply no way to create and build a secure foundation so that you can enjoy all of the benefits of a deep and strong relationship.

But when you respect your partner and he or she respects you, the relationship has a strong chance at thriving, and all the aspects of your connection blossom. The communication improves. The commitment deepens. The trust multiplies. The satisfaction level goes through the roof.

And that all begins with a mutual respect that emerges because you like each other and because you appreciate the way you live your individual lives.

So as you try to figure out whether you’ve found “The One,” take a look at this list. If you can check off each of the above items, then you owe it to yourself to allow the relationship to become all that it can possibly be.

Finding Your Man via Shopping Cart


2010, Dec-28 In an ideal world, there would be a store where you could walk in, peruse the shelves of beautiful, eligible bachelors, pick out the one who fits all of your romantic requirements, and go on your merry way with your newfound love who happens to love you, too. It sounds so blissfully easy, right?

Well, this scenario is a reality on, the new dating website where women “shop” for men online. It’s based on the highly successful French site,, created by Florent Steiner and Manuel Conejo in September 2007.

Recognizing the site’s potential, CEO and co-founder Sebastien Sikorski has now introduced this “Supermarket of Love” to the U.S. Launched in November 2010, AdoptAGuy is free and open to both men and women over the age of 18 from “all walks of life.”

Here’s how the site works: When a woman signs on to AdoptAGuy, she is presented with 30 men in her geographic region. She can browse their profiles or search for specific matches, like men who are “Rich and Dying,” “Celebrity Look-Alikes,” or happen to be a “Man in Uniform.” (Yes, these are real search categories.)

Once a girl finds a guy she likes, she places him in her “cart,” and then, and only then, can the two begin communicating. If the guy isn’t interested, he can remove himself from her cart. Or, if he wants to pique a girl’s interest who has yet to notice him, he can send her a “charm,” but he’s only given ten per day (so he must use them wisely!).

The site is certainly unique in that it gives us women all of the power – finally, we can avoid all of those crude messages from random guys like the ones we get on other dating sites where men are allowed to initiate contact. Men are left helpless on AdoptAGuy – all they can do is focus their attention on putting their best foot forward and making their profiles attractive to us. That sounds nice…

But, there is a definite creep factor to AdoptAGuy, and it’s one we can’t overlook. We hope we don’t have to remind Sikorski that men are nothing like shoes, groceries, or anything else you can shop for. For starters, guys have those little things called brains, emotions, and souls, which qualifies them as people who should never be “stocked on a shelf.” They should also never be referred to as “products,” and the idea of putting them in a cart is kind of degrading.

Could you imagine if the site was switched around and the women became the products? It would cause a national uproar! People would blame the site for objectifying women, and frankly, we’re surprised AdoptAGuy isn’t already getting flack for doing just that to men. It seems wrong to approach love with the same aloof and superficial attitude that we use when shopping, but maybe we’re taking this too seriously.

Then again, don’t most women (and men) who are online dating take their search for love very seriously? They sign up for these sites to look for someone to develop a relationship with and potentially fall in love with – a much more substantial search than finding a pair of shoes on sale or the right kind of ice cream in the frozen food section.

The reason why eHarmony and are the top dating websites in America is because they don’t fool around – you have to pay to belong to those sites, they match users on important qualities like values, morals, and compatibility, and they treat their members with respect. Yet, AdoptAGuy has apparently taken a different route, turning online dating into some sort of game.

If it is a game, then think about the players you’re dealing with: guys who have no problem being called a “product” or categorizing themselves as “Rich and Dying,” and women who think placing a man into their “cart” is cute and playful. This may be all the rage in France, but we won’t be surprised if it doesn’t translate as well here in the U.S.

Farewell Teena Marie

2010, December 27 – Amidst the shock of  R&B musical giant Teena Marie’s sudden passing, it is being reported that it’s believed that she died of natural causes after a grand mal seizure: No illegal drugs were found at the home where singer Teena Marie’s body was discovered yesterday according to the latest reports.

Authorities searched Teena Marie’s home in Pasadena , CA but only found some herbal medication and no, not marijuana. An autopsy and toxicology tests will be performed on her body later this week , however authorities are speculating that she died of natural causes.

Suggested Christmas Gifts

Happy Holidays, Friends!

Christmas gift suggestions:
To your enemy, forgiveness.
To an opponent, tolerance.
To a friend, your heart.
To a customer, service.
To all, charity.
To every child, a good example.
To yourself, respect.


I just wrapped up my final internet radio show for 2010. I am thankful to all of my listeners, guests and fans for supporting the Dialogue With Daisy and Friends show. You all have helped me to grow exponentially during this past year.

Many, Many thanks to my producer and co-host, Tim Jones, who has brought tireless energy and innovative ideas to the show. Thank you to Lisa Tyrell-Perry who has been with me from the beginning of the show as it started in May 2010. Thanks so much to Deranty Cohen (my #1 fan, as he says) for always tuning in; David Johnson for your loyal support; Clavia Howard of Lazy Daze Cruise & Travel for your never-ending support of my show and me; Amena Mitchell for your intellect and support you lend to the show; Tiffani Real for your wisdom, candor, loyalty and consistent support. I am enamored with your expressions of love for me. A big hug and kiss to all of you. May 2011 shine as brightly as the star that is YOU!!

Please be reminded to visit my web site at: and order a copy of A Blood Like Yours. Autographed copies are available for only $10.00 through 12/22/2010 with no shipping charges.

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